China in the hometown | The second child of the "elderly child"

My classmate is 26 years old and has a 3 -year -old sister.

Xiao Zeng’s father is a civil servant, and his mother is a teacher.In the first ten years of being the only child, she often wanted to have a younger brother and sister to play with her, but it was impossible under the strict family planning policy.At the age of 23, the first year of her graduation of her university, with the release of the second child policy, her parents had a second child.For this reason, she tried to oppose them with quarrels, cold war, and hunger strikes, and finally accepted the incident with resistance.

Such a second -born family is not uncommon in Dongkou County, Hunan Province, Hunan Province.Especially after the second -child policy in 2015, the only children who have already become an adult have suddenly become the brother or sister of a little baby.It is reported that the former only children who are close to two rounds than their younger and sisters are "old -age children."The friendship between them and their brothers and sisters will inevitably be alienated due to the huge age difference.

Before the younger sister of Xiao Zeng, she prepared a civil servant in the county’s hometown in the county, separated from the two places with parents who worked in the city, and could only see the last one or two sides in one month.After her sister was born, she was admitted to the county civil servants. Every time she returned to the home in the city, she noticed that some changes were happening -the family became lively, her mother no longer nobble to her.Fun.

Xiao Zeng’s mother hopes that Xiao Zeng learns to care for his sister -in -law, and he is also teaching his sister to get closer to his sister. "As a only child, they still don’t know how to get along with our brothers and sisters. This is our parents’ responsibility."

The family portrait of the small family.Interviewee confession

The second child of the post -70s parents

In the circle of friends, some of his peers are taking selfies, and some people start to expose their children.

She will also post a selfie and sister video.Occasionally, a small video, my sister wore a pink pajamas, accompanied by music, twisted her waist for a while, and waved her hand for a while.In order to avoid netizens such as "this is your child? Really cute", she would write a text, "My little girl" and "see the dancing posture of my sister".

"Actually, if others say, ‘You are so young, have such a big child?’" She paused for a while, "I won’t be distressed, but I will be very happy. It is normal to have children at this age.I look younger. "

Before she was about to become a little baby’s sister, she experienced a period of resisting the second child and distressed.In October 2015, when she returned to the county’s house to prepare for the civil servant examination. When her parents cared about her review progress on the phone, her parents suddenly asked, "The second child policy has been released, do you want a younger brother and sister?" She answered decisively.,"In no mood."

"When I want a younger brother and sister, they refused. I have grown up and I don’t need a younger brother and sister to accompany." She held her legs and said softly.

For Xiao Zeng, the idea of having a younger brother and sister had sprouted in elementary school.At that time, the partners who came to the house had to go back to their home in the evening. The home who had just made a laugh and laughed quietly, and only the mother who came home from work accompanied her to write homework.Mom arranged the task, "At that time, she wanted a younger brother and sister."

It was a period when the family planning policy was very strict. Public officials could only have one child. The little father said that he never wanted to violate the second child in violation of policies in the past.

"I didn’t expect the family planning policy to let go." Xiao Zeng’s father recalled that on October 29, 2015, they saw a news: the Fifth Plenary Session of the 18th CPC Central Committee decided to fully implement a couple’s policy of childbirth.His friends were boiling, and friends of the same age talked to each other, "a few families plan together and make efforts."

The colleagues of Xiao Zeng’s mother in elementary school are also discussing the phone call. "Friends around you want to regenerate one, everyone’s situation is different. Friends of the 60s are envious. They are afraid of being pregnant. Friends in the 80s are not so active.Afterwards, I really want to regenerate a child. "

At the same time, Xiao Zeng’s friends of the same age were asked by his parents. They decisively refused without exception.

A few days later, when Xiao Zeng received a call from his father, he conveyed the decision of the two parents. "We plan to go to the hospital for a ring surgery, try it, and let it go." She hung up the phone directly.EssenceWhen I received the phone call, my dad said a few reasons, "We have a second child for you. The first is that you can have a relative with blood relationship. The second is that the policy is let go.There must be only benefits and no disadvantages. "

The cousin cousin cousin came to persuade her, "It’s all for your good, you will know it later." "I didn’t feel good at me at all, did I have a child to spend our family money?" Xiao Zeng murmuredOne sentence, "They can’t say why they are good for me. Anyway, their parents did not plan to have a second child, and things did not happen to them."

The lobbyist who couldn’t hold a dial, she and her parents gave each other half a step. The three chapters of the law, "You can try it for you for a year, if not, give up the idea of the second child." She thought to her parents.The chance of pregnancy is not high. After a few months, the idea of the second child is naturally fading.

"There is a sister in the world who looks very similar to me."

When she learned that her mother was pregnant from her aunt, she was on the night of November 2016, and she agreed with her parents the last month.

She had a few seconds of stuns and called to confirm with her parents after she hung up the phone.In the past 11 months, Xiao Zeng and his parents did not discuss any topics about the second child. One month and one month later, she thought that her parents had dispelled the idea of pregnancy.

Angry, disgusted and sad emotions intertwined, and it broke out.She locked herself on the third floor and sent a few circles of friends, expressing her unacceptable with a large paragraph of text.She only remembers one of them, "I don’t want to live, I plan to go on a hunger strike, and the national exam will not be taken."

Seeing that the parents in the circle of friends who could not call the phone, my aunt could not knock on the door, and could only do her ideological work outside the door. In the middle of the night, my aunt sent a message to Xiao Zeng’s parents. "She opened the door to open the door.Going to drink pure water, it must be okay. "

Xiao Zeng’s parents rushed back to the county the next morning.They couldn’t open the door, so they had to say a bunch of the benefits of a bunch of younger brothers and sisters outside the door. In the end they added two, "One more insurance is more insurance, you see so many families now;Give you all you want. "

"I graduated to start working, and don’t have any money at home." Xiao had quarreled with her parents across the door, and she ignored them a few days later, but she deleted the circle of friends.

Her mood was very contradictory. As soon as other friends around her opposed it, her parents shaken the idea of the second child."I was most angry that when they asked me, I didn’t want it. They were still pregnant. I must express my attitude."

She had a bad temper for a few days when she was a child, locked herself in the room, and refused to communicate with her parents.

But her mother was pregnant, and she could not say a ruthless words such as "let the mother kill the child".Thinking is good. "

In the next few days, Xiao Zeng’s parents did not happen when the quarrel did not happen. Occasionally, she called to ask her to review the situation. She never mentioned her mother’s pregnancy.The angry mood dissipated in a peaceful life, and Xiao had started to worry. After all, this time her mother was a 45 -year -old mother.

She thought that her mother accompanied her every night when she was a child; she also thought that her aunt was almost difficult to give birth when she was born with her feet.Soaked into a paste to feed her to drink.

"She is a good mother." Xiao Zeng’s eyes were moist.She went to the city to stay with her mother for a month, and participated in the public examination interview training by the way.It seems that when she returned to high school at once, she went out early and returned every day, and her mother always waited for her.

By the next summer vacation, her mother had a big belly and was in a good mood. She leaned on the sofa and listened to Xiao Zeng’s interesting thing when traveling.

On the night of her mother’s production, Xiao Zeng just returned to the house of the county seat and stumbled to hear his aunt receiving the phone, "I’m going to give birth."She waited for a while, and no one went upstairs to call her to go to the hospital in the city. She turned over and over in bed, kept looking at her mobile phone, and had never received a call.She sent a text message to her dad, "Mom said she hopes to give birth."

At noon the next day, she received a call from her father. "Mom gave birth to a sister, all safe." The stone in her heart landed, "Nothing is more important than mother and sister."

When Xiao Zeng rushed to the city, his mother was lying on the bed with a headscarf, and she looked good.My sister was lying aside in the puppet, pink and tender. The aunts saw her and said, "My sister looks like you, it is a mold carved."

"It feels wonderful, there is a sister and sister who looks like me in the world." Xiao Zeng said.

Xiao Zeng and sister.Interviewee confession

The 3+1 gets along

On January 24 this year, the New Year was 30. On this day, according to the practice, the younger family returned to the village’s hometown to accompany her grandma.Early in the morning, Xiao Zeng’s parents took the younger sister to drive from the city’s home for an hour and a half to her hometown, while she and her boyfriend set off from the county seat.The rain kept next to the rain, and the car just stopped on the muddy soil road in the village. She carried a live catfish and a bag of candy and trot into the hall. The boots splashed on the mud.

Mom sat at the table at the room and grilled the fire. When she saw her, she turned her head and shouted, "It’s my sister back, Ke Ke, calling sister." The sister was running around wearing a floral bib and a red hat.Run into the mother’s arms and refuse to say a word.Mom said, "I have been talking about my sister, and ask my sister?"

The two sisters hadn’t seen it for more than a month. Xiao Zeng shouted with a smile, "Ke Ke." The sister came out and looked at her sister. The sister was walking to the kitchen on one side.The younger sister then walked behind her sister.

Such a scene happened when the sisters met.Since his parents lived in the home in the city with their sister, Xiao Zeng and her boyfriend lived in the county seat, and could only see one or two sides in a month.

Xiao Zeng gently took the top of his sister’s little red hat, teased her to call her sister, "My sister bought the fire rabbit for you." The sister finally shouted "Sister".

Xiao Zeng’s mood grows up with his sister’s safe birth and health every day.When her sister called her sister for the first time, her little milk yelled out with the accent of the hometown of Dongkou, but she laughed.She taught her sister to speak, speaking in Mandarin, and her sister blinked her eyes and looked at her, and she turned into a "hole", "interesting."

She took a video of her sister’s teeth, singing and dancing, and posted in the circle of friends. She also understood the treasure mothers of the videos of the madness and cute baby in the circle of friends. "Children can really bring a lot of happiness."She laughed and said that this was a feeling of being a mother without responsibility.

"We stood together, and I knew who was a mother at a glance, do you know why?" She explained, "Mom’s eyes will always stare at my sister, and my sister will go to play with her mobile phone for a while.Even more obvious, I must be upset to stand aside. "

"We are three adults and grow up with a child." Xiao Zeng’s mother said, in their opinion, Xiao Zeng has grown up and has his own family. If she needs parents, we must be withShe, but her sister is still so young, we must also care for her more, and my sister should care more about her sister.

"She watched us so good to my sister, and could also think that we used to love her wholeheartedly and to her." Xiao Zeng said that Xiao Zeng was also learning to be good for his sister, like buying a toy for his sister, and with the family at home.When the video, I will ask what the sister is doing first, "These may not have thought of it before."

After lunch, Xiao Zeng and his boyfriend planned to return to the county’s home first, and returned to the village to pay the New Year at the beginning of the new year.Seeing that my sister put on her backpack, her sister kept reaching out at her mother’s arms. When she saw her sister ignored, she shouted with crying, "Sister."

Mom appeased her, "Sister go home first, and come to play with Ke Ke again tomorrow." The sister cried even more, half -body rushed towards her sister, and Xiao had busy reaching her and hugged her.

"It’s too little time to get along with her. When you are not familiar with the meeting, you will be separated for a few days. When she is cute, she teases very fun. I don’t know how to coax when she cries." Xiao Zeng was safe.Bring, turn the photos just taken in the phone.She was lamented, hoping to work in the city this year, she can have more time to get along with her family and accompany her parents and sister.

In the future planning of Xiao Zeng, she will step into marriage this year and set up her own small family.She is also preparing to have a baby in the past two years after marriage. In her opinion, "this is something that must be completed in life."

Q & A

Beijing News: Use a word to summarize 2019, why?

Xiao Zeng: New beginning, this year found the other half, he will form a new family, change new jobs, contact a new field, and have new challenges.

Beijing News: What is the biggest change in my hometown in the past year?

Xiao Zeng: Traffic is becoming more and more convenient. After passing the high -speed rail, small county buses are more on time, slowing traffic pressure, and more convenient travel for work.

Beijing News: What are the wishes and plans for the new year?

Xiao Zeng: I hope to go to work in the city, and I can get along with my family more time and accompany my parents and my sister.

Beijing News: What is your most concerned about social issues?How to change?

Xiao Zeng: Poverty Alleviation.Last year, other grass -roots civil servants and I were busy with poverty alleviation and organized many people’s technical training to help them find jobs. Now trying to poverty alleviation for e -commerce and promoting agricultural products through the online platform. The effect is okay.It is hoped that the people will not return to poverty and truly achieve poverty alleviation.

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